Ep. 4: Woman, Don’t Abandon Yourself

Mar 21

Written By Kia & Krystel Note To Herself

Being a good mother, daughter, friend, or partner shouldn’t require disappearing from who you are and what you want from life.

In Episode 4 of the Note to Herself podcast, Kia and Krystel get honest about something many women experience but rarely name: self-abandonment.

This conversation explores what it looks like to slowly lose yourself in caregiving, expectations, and the pressure to be everything for everyone— and how to begin reclaiming who you are without guilt.

From motherhood and coparenting to relationships, routines, and even the small ways we ignore our own preferences, this episode unpacks how self-abandonment happens over time and, most importantly: what it takes to interrupt that pattern.

They talk about:

✨ Why mom guilt isn’t something you have to carry

✨ The importance of boundaries in parenting, relationships, and everyday life

✨ How women are often conditioned to over-function and over-give

✨ The difference between doing things out of joy vs obligation

✨ Why rest, stillness, and “doing nothing” are essential—not indulgent

✨ How to recognize when you’re running from yourself instead of sitting with yourself

Kia shares how reconnecting with what she actually likes (not what she’s been told to like) became a turning point. Krystel opens up about releasing mom guilt and redefining what it means to show up fully, without losing herself in the process.

This episode is a reminder that:

👏🏾 You don’t have to disappear to be loved.

👏🏾 You don’t have to overextend to be valued.

👏🏾 And you don’t have to abandon yourself to take care of everyone else.

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