In this episode of Note to Herself, we’re talking about That 40s Glow Up—the confidence, clarity, and freedom that shows up while you’re still healing, still evolving, and finally choosing yourself.

Episode 7: The world feels like… a lot right now. So how do you stay informed without losing your peace? In this episode of Note to Herself, we’re having an honest conversation about news overload, outrage, and what it looks like to protect your peace in real time.

Healing doesn’t always feel peaceful. In this episode of Note to Herself, we talk about emotional healing, trauma, church hurt, self-abandonment, boundaries, and what it really takes to reconnect with yourself. Sometimes healing looks like grief, accountability, discomfort, nervous system regulation, and finally telling yourself the truth.

Nobody warns you that some of your hardest breakups won’t be romantic, they’ll be friendships.

In this episode of Note to Herself, Kia and Krystel get honest about friendship breakups; the kind that don’t come with drama or betrayal, just distance, growth, and change.

Being a good mother, daughter, friend, or partner shouldn’t require disappearing from who you are and what you want from life.

In Episode 4 of the Note to Herself podcast, Kia and Krystel get honest about something many women experience but rarely name: self-abandonment.

This conversation explores what it looks like to slowly lose yourself in caregiving, expectations, and the pressure to be everything for everyone— and how to begin reclaiming who you are without guilt.

Is modern dating actually broken — or are we approaching it the wrong way? In Episode 3 of the Note to Herself podcast, Kia and Krystel unpack the chaos of modern dating, the viral coffee date debate, and the role that attachment styles, social media narratives, and unrealistic expectations play in how people date today.

Everyone online is talking about the “soft life.”

But most of what we see is the aesthetic version—robes, candles, matcha lattes, and curated calm.

In this episode of Note to Herself, Kia and Krystel talk about what a real soft life actually looks like in your 40s—and why it often costs more than people think.

In our world, softness isn’t effortless, it’s intentional.

In Episode 1, “She’s In Her Grown Woman Bag,” hosts Kia and Krystel dive into identity, authenticity, midlife growth, and what it really means to stop over-explaining yourself.

The Note to Herself Podcast is for women 40+ who are done editing themselves.

Hosted by Kia McCallister-Young and Krystel Spell — two longtime friends in their forties — this podcast is an honest, unfiltered space for women navigating identity, relationships, and the reclamation of personal power.

Each episode explores three things: who you are now, what you’re ready to release, and what you’re stepping into next.